Visualization

You need to visualize the specific changes if you truly want to change your look. What will any improvements you make look like? See yourself with a streamlined body, healthier hair, clearer skin, majestic posture. These changes are realistic and attainable. Stay away from goals you’ll never reach.
Don’t compare yourself with someone you’ve seen on the TV or movie screen or on the cover of a magazine. Accept your uniqueness and capitalize on it.

Mirrors Boost Attitude

The quickest attitude adjustment is through reflection. Women who have low self esteem often avoid mirrors like the plague. However, mirrors can become a big ally.
Mirrors can tell you how you’re progressing, in those little ways that may not be noticeable to the casual eye. It is the ultimate objective eye.

Do Everything Better

The way you use your beauty products will make all the difference in results.
For instance, try to duplicate what you see and feel your hair is shampooed at a salon. The product is always handled, never poured directly on hair.
Add a massage to your scalp when washing. While rinsing, lift your hair away from your scalp for about two minutes until it squeaks.
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In 1966, the board game “What Shall I be? The Exciting Game of Career Girls” hit the shelves. The aim of the game was to be the first player to become a career girl. To win, you had to collect four school cards of one profession, two subject cards and two personality cards that were suitable for that profession. And what stellar professions did the winner stand to become? A teacher, airline hostess, actress, nurse, model and a ballet dancer.

It goes without saying that the exciting game of career girls has changed heaps in the past 40 years. We’re invading the workplace and even in formerly male-dominated industries like engineering, we’re strutting in with our power suits and Louboutin heels. According to the Ministry of Labour, 51 percent of women in Singapore are in the workforce, a figure not too far from other developed nations such as the US and UK, which has 56 and 53 percent of women working respectively. Despite these positive trends, we haven’t transcended gender-stereotyped limits entirely. While our real-life Game of Career Girls has expanded to include doctor, executive and a whole array of topnotch jobs, when it comes to who sits at the top of that career ladder, we’re still Barbie girls stuck in Ken’s world. Check this out: Out of the Fortune 500 companies of 2007, an annual ranking of the largest corporations in America, only 12 are led by women.

This isn’t to say that being female by default means being at the losing end. Anne Cummings, an associate professor of management at the University of Minnesota who has studied organisational behaviour and leadership styles, found that employees ranked traditionally feminine qualities of being relationship-oriented, diplomatic and good at communication as being important in leaders. However, despite this, female leaders were consistently perceived as less effective than their male counterparts. “Men are still perceived as better leaders and it has to do with what is deemed desirable in a man and in woman,” Cumming argues. Another study conducted by the University of Maine’s Business School confirms these attitudes. As much as some feminine traits were seen as desirable in employees, in leaders, socialisation and communication skills weren’t seen in the same light.

So what are these gender differences and how do they affect the way our superiors, subordinates and peers perceive our capabilities? According to a survey conducted by Development Dimensions International (DDI) on leadership, while male and females don’t differ much in capabilities, they do show significant differences in the way they feel about their skills and other workplace issues, in particular taking on positions of higher power and huger responsibilities. Explaining why these gender differences exist is tricker but to a large extent, that isn’t the point. Whether these differences are cases of nature versus nurture, sitting around contemplating why it is the case won’t get us any nearer to where we want to be individually and collectively as women.

If we are to emerge victorious in this battle of the sexes, it’s worth acknowledging that with a playing field currently dominated by men, the rules, to a certain extent, are set by them and who gets to be a star player will be judged against a set of criteria that might not include our feminine instincts. There’s no point in being the best ballerina in rugby match. But that doesn’t mean achieving success means becoming a man. The key is to reap the best of both worlds, so that your feminine instincts and masculine habits symbotically inform each other. Here are some of the most common mistakes women unknowingly make their jobs and how you can deal with them like a man.
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Here are 11 scientifically proven ways to increase your chances of finding the perfect partner. (Yes, academics actually get paid to research interpersonal attraction, as psychologists rather drearily dub this thing called love.) These findings dispel many clichès beloved of romantic fiction - from opposites attracting to absence making the heart grow fonder - while confirming others.

1. Like Seeks Like

Look for someone as much like you as possible, because chances are, he or she is looking for you too. We prefer mates with similar backgrounds, interests, values and beliefs because they validate our own. We even gravitate towards people who look like us. Eminent scientist Sir Francis Galton drew attention to this phenomenon a century ago, and since then it has been confirmed by numerous studies on the resemblances between spouses.

2. Declare Your Desire

Ditch the strong and silent act because a major turn-on, according to social psychologist Dr Arthur Aron, is the simple realisation that someone fancies you. It makes you feel good about yourself, which, in turn, overflows into feeling good about them. We warm to those who flatter and are nice to us, which is why the stereotypical Byronic hero trading barbs with his love interest (until near the end when they eventually melt into one another’s arms) is a romantic clichè that does not bear close examination.

3. The Eyes Have It

On one point, however, the bodice rippers are right there can be such a thing as love at first sight. It’s been shown that the longer a pair of prospective partners lock eyes upon meeting, the more they like what they see. It helps if you have dilated pupils because these are the single most attractive physical attribute, according to research conducted by the late Eckhard Hess, who was a professor at the University of Chicago’s psychology department. He found that subjects shown two pictures of a member of the opposite sex - identical save for pupil size - were twice as likely to pick the larger-pupils photo as the more attractive, even when they could spot the difference. Enlarged pupils signal intense arousal.

4. Body Language

Run out of sweet nothings to say? Fall back on body language, a form of non-verbal communication understood by both sexes. The most obvious - and effective overture is simply staring at the prospective partner and smiling; then there are “preening” gestures, such as playing with your hair.

According to Allan Pease, author of The Definitive Guide to Body Language, what really turns men on is female “submission” gestures, which include exposing vulnerable areas such as the wrists or neck, as well as the leg twine (the manoeuvre at which Princess Diana, that premier flirt, excelled: it involves crossing the legs and hooking the upper leg’s foot behind the lover leg’s ankle.)

Men typically make themselves look more dominant by taking up space and engaging in “crotch display” - thumbs hooked in pockets, fingers “pointing” at the genitals (worked for Michael Jackson… for a while, anyway).
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On the Internet, as in life, men and women have different motivations for doing what they do. According to a recent report from Pew Internet and American Life, women view the Internet as a place to extend, support, and nurture relationships and communities.

Do Different Genders Use The Web Differently
Men tend to see it as an office, a library, or a playground–screw the community, this is about function not family.

The report found that women are more enthusiastic communicators, using email in a more robust way. Not only sending and receiving more email than men, women are more likely to write to family and friends about a variety of topics, sharing news, joys and worries, planning events, and forwarding jokes and stories.

While both sexes equally appreciate the efficiency and convenience of email, women are more likely than men to value the medium for its positive effects on improving relationships, expanding networks, and encouraging teamwork at the office.

“Women also value email for a kind of positive, water-cooler effect, which lightens the atmosphere of office life,” reads the 54-page report.

The report found that women are more likely to use the Internet for emailing, getting maps and directions (after all, we men always know where we’re going), looking for health and medical information, seeking support for health and personal problems, and getting religious information.

Men tend to be more intense Internet users than women, being more likely to go online daily (61% of men and 57% of women) and more likely to go online several times a day (44% of men and 39% of women).
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