Poisoneyes: It’s been a long time I didn’t take any chances in checking through my Emotional Intelligence level. Recently I was told by one of my professor who knew about my EQ (Emotional Quotient) & IQ (Intelligence Quotient) range. Well, I wasn’t expecting much about it because I knew that my IQ range wasn’t that fantastic after all. So, to my astonishment this professor by the name of Prof. Dr. Sir Norhisham Wahab told me about the things I love to do. Basically whatever he’ve been telling me all this while was all true. I love drawings, designing, writing, reading and all many stuff which uses the right brain. That’s me anyway. So, I was shocked when Prof. Dr. Sir Norhisam knew about my hobby and interest. Wow! This is amazing!! And guess what? He even said that my most suitable colour for myself is Pink! Oh dear… Pink has been my most detest colours among all. I’m not sure why? But that’s the fact. He even told me to use a lot of Pink rather than Black (this is my favourite colour, how can he say that…)

But then, after explaining about the meaning of each colour, I started to realise something which is truthful. Pink helps to control my emotional well being. He even said that I used to be so emotional and started to listen to all kinds of emotional song. This is true. Very true indeed. So, I would like to share with you the experience being tested in knowing about my EQ (Emotional Quotient range). From what I knew, people always keep saying about having an high IQ level will help you succeed in whatever you do. But that’s not true!! That was an old story ok. We’ve been brainwash by all kind of wrong information. No wonder I keep on seeing people with high IQ level but missing most of their EQ range.

You should know what does the expert says about it. Open your eyes wider this time and don’t be too arrogant saying that having a high level of IQ, you’re smarter than anyone does.

Julie B. Thibodeaux, M.C.P. and D. Stephenson Bond, L.M.H.C says: Is your intellectual intelligence the greatest predictor of what you�ll accomplish in life?

We have been conditioned to believe that IQ is the best measure of human potential. In the past 10 years, however, researchers have found that this isn’t necessarily the case — that in actuality, your emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success.

What is emotional intelligence? In the early 1990s, Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D., and Dr. Peter Salovey, Ph.D., introduced the term “emotional intelligence” in the Journal of Personality Assessment. They used this term to describe a person’s ability to understand his or her own emotions and the emotions of others and to act appropriately based on this understanding. Then in 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman popularized this term with his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Read the rest of this entry »

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IMAGINE two people of equal skill applying for a job. Would you pick the person who is less confident? Ever? Quite simply, a positive sense of self can transform your life.

Rosabeth Moss Kanter, author of the bestselling book Confidence: How Winning Streaks and Losing Streaks Begin and End, has honed the definition down to its essence: “Confidence is the expectation of a positive outcome,” says Kanter. A professor at Harvard Business School, Kanter helps translate textbook concepts about success and attitude into practical results. “The fact is,” she says, “confidence makes you willing to try harder and attracts the kind of support from others that makes ‘winning’ possible.”

In marriage, it makes you more capable of hearing the feelings and criticisms your partner really needs you to hear. In the business world, confidence bridges the chasm between the person who’ll ask for and receive a rise and the employee who accepts the status quo; between the salesperson who gets discouraged by rejection and stops cold-calling and the one who forges ahead and scores the mega sale.

If, like most people, your confidence could use a boost, here are strategies on how to develop it quickly - and keep it working for you the rest of your life.

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I’ve yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other. Whenever we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle. Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what’s wrong with something and our need to fix it. When we are zeroed in on what’s wrong, it implies that we are dissatisfied, discontent.Whether it’s related to ourselves - a disorganized closet, a scratch on the car, an imperfect accomplishment, a few pounds we would like to lose - or someone else’s “imperfections” - the way someone looks, behaves, or lives their life - the very act of focusing on imperfection pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle. This strategy has nothing to do with ceasing to do your very best but with being overly attached and focused on what’s wrong with life. It’s about realizing that while there’s always a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and appreciate the way things already are.

The solution here is to catch yourself when you fall into your habit of insisting that things should be other than they are. Gently remind yourself that life is okay the way it is, right now. In the absence of your judgement, everything would be fine. As you begin to eliminate your need for perfection in all areas of your life, you’ll begin to discover the perfection in life itself.
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