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Poisoneyes: It’s been a long time I didn’t take any chances in checking through my Emotional Intelligence level. Recently I was told by one of my professor who knew about my EQ (Emotional Quotient) & IQ (Intelligence Quotient) range. Well, I wasn’t expecting much about it because I knew that my IQ range wasn’t that fantastic after all. So, to my astonishment this professor by the name of Prof. Dr. Sir Norhisham Wahab told me about the things I love to do. Basically whatever he’ve been telling me all this while was all true. I love drawings, designing, writing, reading and all many stuff which uses the right brain. That’s me anyway. So, I was shocked when Prof. Dr. Sir Norhisam knew about my hobby and interest. Wow! This is amazing!! And guess what? He even said that my most suitable colour for myself is Pink! Oh dear… Pink has been my most detest colours among all. I’m not sure why? But that’s the fact. He even told me to use a lot of Pink rather than Black (this is my favourite colour, how can he say that…)

 

But then, after explaining about the meaning of each colour, I started to realise something which is truthful. Pink helps to control my emotional well being. He even said that I used to be so emotional and started to listen to all kinds of emotional song. This is true. Very true indeed. So, I would like to share with you the experience being tested in knowing about my EQ (Emotional Quotient range). From what I knew, people always keep saying about having an high IQ level will help you succeed in whatever you do. But that’s not true!! That was an old story ok. We’ve been brainwash by all kind of wrong information. No wonder I keep on seeing people with high IQ level but missing most of their EQ range.

 

You should know what does the expert says about it. Open your eyes wider this time and don’t be too arrogant saying that having a high level of IQ, you’re smarter than anyone does.

 

Julie B. Thibodeaux, M.C.P. and D. Stephenson Bond, L.M.H.C says: Is your intellectual intelligence the greatest predictor of what you�ll accomplish in life?

We have been conditioned to believe that IQ is the best measure of human potential. In the past 10 years, however, researchers have found that this isn’t necessarily the case — that in actuality, your emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success.

What is emotional intelligence? In the early 1990s, Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D., and Dr. Peter Salovey, Ph.D., introduced the term “emotional intelligence” in the Journal of Personality Assessment. They used this term to describe a person’s ability to understand his or her own emotions and the emotions of others and to act appropriately based on this understanding. Then in 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman popularized this term with his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.

 

Poisoneyes: Here are my test. You should test your’s too!

 

Not to worry about your scoring. It doesn’t matter anyway. Regardless of your score, keep in mind that your emotional intelligence can change. People are always evolving. You can increase your EQ at any point in your life by learning to identify your emotions and taking responsibility for those emotions.

 

You scored 90% correct!

Your score falls in the high EQ range.

Answers:

1. Situation: A friend has borrowed something small, but high in sentimental value. You’ve asked for your friend to return the item, but your friend has failed to bring it back.

Answer: You admit to your friend how important the item is to you and why you would like it back, and ask your friend to return the item to you.

2. Situation: Your long-term mate has ended your relationship and you are upset because you wanted the relationship to continue.

Answer: You decide to make the best of it and find healthy outlets for your feelings.

3. Situation: Your mate has a habit that annoys you more and more each day.

Answer: You tell the person what annoys you and why.

4. Situation: Your boss has assigned you your first big project, and the success or failure of the project could make or break your career.

Answer: You take a few minutes to relax, give yourself time to think, and decide to pursue the idea that makes you feel most confident.

5. Situation: You are walking down the street, suddenly trip, and almost land flat on your face.

Answer: You regain your poise, laugh at yourself, and continue on your way.

6. Situation: You are on a first date, and you notice that your date seems to be very uncomfortable.

Answer: You make an effort to get your date involved in a conversation and find out more about him or her.

7. Situation: You find out that the promotion you were hoping for was given to someone else.

Answer: You continue to do your best; you know the next promotion is yours.

8. Situation: Your significant other is spending a lot of extra time at the office and acting distant.

Answer: You talk to your partner about what is going on at work and see if there is anything you can do to help.

9. Situation: You are hanging out with a group of friends and one of your friends starts to make a negative comments about a friend who isn’t there.

Answer: You tell your friend that you don’t feel comfortable talking about people who aren’t there, and change the subject.

10. Situation: Your best friend has recently broken up with a mate and is taking it hard.

Answer: Ask your friend what you can do to help him or her get through this rough time, and do it.

Why are these answers correct?

Each answer represents the concept of emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is about having empathy for others. It is about standing up for what you believe in a tactful and respectful way. It is about not jumping to conclusions, but getting the whole picture before you react. The key to emotional intelligence is an understanding of your emotions and the emotions of others, and acting in the most appropriate way based on that understanding.

Having a healthy emotional intelligence is very important in order for human beings to live happy and successful lives. Healthy emotional intelligence helps us set our personal boundaries, make decisions about our lives, and communicate with the people we love.

Regardless of your score, keep in mind that your emotional intelligence can change. People are always evolving. You can increase your EQ at any point in your life by learning to identify your emotions and taking responsibility for those emotions. And just as easily as you can increase your EQ, you can also decrease it. You must continue to identify and work on areas within yourself that need work.

Regardless of your emotional intelligence level, you could benefit from some of these tips to increase emotional intelligence:

• Go to the gym, take an exercise class or participate in activities that reduce your stress level.
• Take up a new hobby or sport that involves interacting with other people.
• Take a class at your local community college.
• Join a support group.
• Keep a feelings journal.
• See a counselor to help you deal with your emotions.
• Take an anger management course.
• Enroll in a communication skills course.
• Read books about emotional intelligence and social skills.
• Do emotional intelligence workbooks.
• Ask your friends and family to help you recognize the things about yourself that may need correcting.

Best of luck on your journey!

Sources:

Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. New York: Bantam Books.

Mayer, J.D., DiPaolo, M.T., and Salovey, P. (1990). “Perceiving affective content in ambiguous visual stimuli: A component of emotional intelligence.” Journal of Personality Assessment, 54, 772-781.

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